Women’s guilt is undeniable We are always apologizing and feeling bad about something. Here’s a statistic that might surprise you – or maybe it won’t. Apparently, ninety six percent of women feel guility at least once a day and sometimes as much as four times a day. If you skipped the gym today, which I did, or you forgot to call your mother, you are probably feeling guilty right now.
Dubbed the GAT (guilty all the time) generation, the study found women beat themselves up daily about their friendships, relationships, work and body shape. It also discovered that almost half of the women interviewed were kept awake at night by guilt.
Author, Erica Jong said: ‘Show me a woman who doesn’t feel guilty and I will show you a man’.
So what topped the list of things that make us feel guilty?
Eating the wrong foods, followed by not spending enough time with family and neglecting work. OMG what demon do we possess that drives us to always feel bad about something. Susan Carrell, author of Escaping Toxic Guilt, said: ‘Women feel guilt when they don’t think they are being good enough in their various roles – especially as wife, mother and daughter. ‘That’s because familial, cultural and religious tenets teach women that being “good” is the most important thing. ‘When a woman feels she is not putting another first, she quickly feels like she’s doing something bad, then guilt rushes in.’
Men are completely different animals. They tend to externalise faults. If they fail an exam it’s because “the room was too hot” while women are more likely to internalise faults and would be more likely to admit to feeling guilty because “I am stupid”’.
Guilt is useless, I think you would agree, so let’s make a pact to rid ourselves of that energy sucking demon. To break a nasty habit, like guilt, we have to replace it with a better choice. How about pride? Instead of beating ourselves up when things aren’t perfect, give ourselves a big hug for making the effort or taking the risk. Let’s give ourselves permission to be human.
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