It’s time for the monthy all-staff meeting, you walk through the door and once again, everyone is seated in the same place just like before and you know the empty chair is Richard, absent again!
It’s time for lunch and you enter the workplace lunchroom. Managers are seated with managers at table #5 while the administrative assistants are at #2. You generally sit at #3. What would happen if you upset the daily routine and asked to sit with the managers….just once? Very few know the answer because it hasn’t happened that often!
Once a month, you visit a long-time friend, you walk through the door and head for the same place on the couch, probably the same couch you have sat on for the last 45+ years. Why? Can you position your head without cramping and effectively hear the conversation in that spot? Is it something about that seat that screams ownership? Is there no other furniture in the room? Or are you not allowed to sit anywhere else? And if you did decide to sit elsewhere, would that just create too much excitement after all those years?
Also, a must-worth mentioning are the regular customers that get angry and decide to leave Starbucks because their favorite seat is occupied by some other alien being!
But, as always, there is no place like home! Because there is your place on the sofa, your recliner that no one dare disturb, your kitchen chair that if missing will cause starvation and let’s not forget, your side of the bed that if taken can result in divorce!
Why do so many resist change? Many say that these habits of habitation are just comfortable but it is the same group that complains about being bored. So, folks, change it up!
Sit in that empty chair at the next meeting and let them know who you really are; not Richard!
Sit with those managers and though they may not talk about what a wonderful employee you are, then again, there is always hope to learn something exciting. Who knows, they may just compliment you for a being a risk taker and taking a new seat on life.
Just because you have been a best friend for 45+ years doesn’t mean you own their couch. Compliment the new Grandma’s rocker they just bought and ask if you could try it out. You may be able to close your eyes and catch a few winks since the requirement for a short nap here and there has become more frequent.
Venture forth in Starbucks; chose a spot next to the guy or girl on the loveseat who may buy you a cup of coffee and become the love of you life.
And as far as your homelife is concerned, let your children ride the electric lazy boy, realize the plate of food situated on the other side of the table is the same, and unless you have a Sleep Number mattress, if your partner really wants to try out the other side, let them. If married, it’s cheaper than a divorce and even a new mattress. And if you and your pet are the only ones that share the surroundings, be fair and let your pet land where they want. I have heard something about dog being mans best friend and that the perfect pet never has fewer than four feet.
Change it up today, surprise yourself and someone else. Sometime’s it’s the smallest decisions that can change your life forever. – Keri Russell
If even simple changes have created major problems for you in all aspects of your life, you may want to seek counseling. Forward Alliance in Chicago offers life coaching, career counseling and other therapies that can restore balance, help you make positive decisions and accept change for the better.