Most of us have been in bad relationships. Most of us have been with partners that lie, cheat, disrespect, etc, etc. Most of us have had our hearts broken by people we should never have allowed into our lives to begin with. Most of us have created a false reality to keep someone around because we weren’t willing to see the truth – because that meant we may end up alone, again. Most of us have repeated these patterns over and over again….not realizing the effects.
We are all interconnected.
Every time one of us allows ourselves to be disrespected, degraded, abused, neglected, hurt, etc…..we all feel it. Every time a mother is abused by a demeaning husband….she is effected, her children are effected, he is effected. She feeds her belief that she deserves this, she isn’t worthy, she can’t do better, etc, etc. Her children learn the belief that this is love, normal, how men and women treat each other, etc. etc. He validates his own belief that since she allows his behavior each time and lets him back in each time…its not so bad, that women deserve it, that he isn’t an abuser, etc, etc. These beliefs then resonate themselves into the rest of the world. If the couple ever separate, they will each go out into the world with the beliefs the abuse/neglect/disrespect created. Their children will grow up and go into the world with the damaged beliefs about relationships and love.
Every time a person allows hurt, sadness, abuse, disrespect, etc to be the way they allow the world to relate to them….the belief that those behaviors are acceptable is validated. Sometimes we can all feel the resonance of such decisions. We hurt when others hurt. We cry when others cry. We mourn when others mourn. Especially with the people we love and connect with.
Every time a person stands up for themselves and demands to be treated with respect, dignity and truth….the belief that those behaviors are imperative is validated. Sometimes we all feel the resonance of such decisions. We radiate when others radiate. We rejoice when others rejoice. We thrive when others thrive. Especially with the people we love and connect with.
Each time a woman disrespects another woman (by sleeping with her husband, by condemning her, by sabotaging her, etc) then the belief that those behaviors are acceptable is validated.
Each time a woman demands that she herself and each woman in her circle of influence is treated with respect and dignity…that belief is validated.
When a person I care about goes back to something that is clearly bad for them, over and over again. It hurts me. It brings up my own weaknesses and in some way validates that sick belief that in the end; hatred wins.
When a person I care about overcomes and achieves something wonderful, or finds true healthy love, or succeeds in spite of life’s roadblocks. It fills me with gratitude. It brings up my own strengths and in validates that proven truth; that love wins.
Those beliefs are then radiated into the world. It really is that simple…..the ripple effect.
What beliefs are you validating in your relationships right now? What beliefs are you radiating to the world right now? Require more for yourself and for those around you.