In our current culture, women are encouraged to believe that the way to personal happiness and satisfaction in marriage is through focusing on self.The message encourages being vigilant in protecting and promoting self through the use of angry outbursts, harsh and profane words spewed out torrentially, threats of physical harm, nagging,complaining, and retaliation in order to force their husband to cower to their never ending list of desires. This message is flowing steadily from television shows (especially “reality” shows), movies about women who use ruthless means to get their way, and music celebrating the ways women can outmaneuver their man.
This is the world’s wisdom for wives, but God has a different method. The world’s suggestions leave a wife alienated and lonely. God has a plan for wives to find real satisfaction in the marriage relationship. God calls wives to become GQ wives. So, what is a GQ wife?
In 1Peter 3:4, wives are told that real beauty is found in a Gentle and Quiet disposition.
A wife with a gentle disposition brings a sense of peace and love into her home. This creates a sense of security for her husband and children because she has a stable, calming effect on everyone. Husbands love to be in the presence of a wife with a gentle, caring disposition.
Wives are also encouraged to develop a Quiet disposition. This does not mean quiet in terms of not speaking or speaking softly or having her opinions and ideas suppressed. Rather, this refers to a calm disposition. It literally means “to keep one’s seat”. In other words, to be calm and steady, not easily moved to a state of being upset. Certainly, wives should speak their mind, but with a calm disposition.This is the type of disposition that makes a husband love to spend time with her and brings security to the children.
A good public example of a GQ wife in current culture is Michelle Duggar of the television show 19 Kids and Counting.
The opposite of a GQ wife in current culture would be someone like Kate Gosslin of the television show Kate Plus Eight or Teresa Giudice from the television show The Real Housewives of Orange County.
To find real happiness, forsake the ideas of the world and embrace God’s wisdom!
Be a GQ wife!
Men, go to our facebook page: www.facebook.com/istilldo and enter a list of qualities you love and admire in a wife.
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