When inspiration does not come to me, I go halfway to meet it.
So said Sigmund Freud and, along with some other titillating theories he left as his legacy, this piece of advice can be of great use.
When it comes to the matters of the heart, we often rely on outside factors to fuel our inspiration tank with the gooey goodness we then translate into the most commonly sought-after state — one of being in love.
Those who have been lucky to get a taste of the hardest, non-chemical-substance-reliant drug there is (the Big L-O-V-E), know that the trip it provides is the ultimate place to be.
When good, it’s so good it should be illegal.
To top it off, science has proven that when in love, we not only feel but also look our best.
Our hair is shinier, lips are plumper, skin is clearer and we ooze positivity and youthful energy. If that is not enough, being aroused on a constant basis (as those in love usually are) makes our muscles contract and shoots an extra amount of blood flow to the nipple area, turning them into perpetual saluters, which really is fun for both boys and girls.
All fantastic stuff, one would think…with just one hitch: How do we – or do we at all – get to enjoy this awesomeness if we are partner-less?
The answer is yes – with use of some creative, mind and body tricking steps.
Step 1: Hook up with yourself – first
Though it may sound like a cliché, being in love with yourself first, truly is one of the healthiest prerequisites for ensuring that, once opportunity strikes, you will be able to love another.
Choose one thing you love about yourself every day and relish that thought for the next 24 hours.
Step 2: Live Love!
Pick up some love mood-boosting pieces to plush-up your home.
Fill your ipod with seductive love sounds and make this the playlist of your life.
Include surefire love-oriented events, as is the upcoming Sade concert in your calendar.
Get inspired by the greatest romances in literature and movies.
Revisit old favorites but also seek out some new and unexplored odes to love, whether in print or celluloid, and let them infuse you with their powerful message.
Step 3: Believe that love is all around
Buy into this mode of thinking and reap its benefits.
You may be surprised at how refreshing and freeing it can be to choose to see the beauty in things, before noticing their flaws.
One you start applying this discovery to people, the real fun can begin.