Well, it is the end to another rigorous and long awaited school year and the children are on the loose! Parents let the games begin!
Proverbs 22:6 says, “Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.” All school long our children were taught the golden rules of academia. They had assignments to complete, core values to live out, and life lessons to put into practice that would propel them into the next school year. But lately, as parents, what new values and “golden rules” have we put into practice for our children to emulate? School is not the only place where a child can acquire “life sustaining” lessons. Some of the most endearing lessons of life are those priceless, “worth their weight in gold” lessons that can only be learned right here in the home.
Although children can be innately independent at times, it still holds true that the only thing children ever truly want is to be with their families, especially now that it is summer. This is the perfect time for parents to bond more with their offspring, to “reconnect”, and build a stronger relationship with one another. Summertime can offer valuable life/family lessons that the entire family can embark on together. Children learn from parents and at rare times, parents can learn from their children. That is why it is so vitally important to be not only “doers” in the family, but also be a “listener” in the family. It is a parent’s right to speak into the life of their child. How does one learn if not by hearing? Faith comes by hearing and when children listen, they listen for instruction and for praise. What we say and what we do as parents has a huge impact on how our children will grow up to be a responsible adult or an irresponsible adult. It is never too early to speak into your child’s life. Children must grow up believing that they can win at life, despite the all the troubles and setbacks that may arise all around them.
Ninety-nine percent of the time, children learn how to live by example, especially from what they see and hear at home. As they get older, what they see and learn from us will be the pattern in which they will live their lives and in the lives of their own children. As parents, we have an awesome responsibility to speak life, faith, freedom, and the pursuit of happiness into our childrens lives. We cannot leave it all up to the school and teachers. We must take an active stance when our children are concerned to ensure that they are well equipped for the future. Children love it when we purposely include ourselves in their daily routine. They have listened to what we told them, they have done what we have asked of them; and as loving parents, we must believe that when they have grown up and moved out of the house, they would have ultimately become what we have prayed they would turn out to be.
That is why it is so important that as parents, we must become that pure active participial in the lives of our children right now. Maintaining an active presence now, will make all the difference in their future later. Oh sure, they may seem small in our eyes today, but soon and very soon, they too, will one day become a parent and we will have become the grandparents listening in on their conversations with their children. And if we are lucky, we might have the privilege of hearing the same life lessons we once spoke into their lives, now being spoken in the lives of their own children. What a joy to know that the seeds we once planted in our child’s life had indeed fell upon fertile ground. In time, if we live long enough, we too will see the fruits of our labor verbally carried over into the next generation.
“Once you have learned how to listen, then you will have earned the right to speak into a child’s life.”