Hi ladies! Happy Friday! It could not have come any faster for me. I am looking forward to an amazing weekend with my boo-thang and a few friends, who happen to be some of the finest poets in Denver. I know it will be so much fun. It will be good to just relax for a while. As we approach the weekend, I wanted to touch on another aspect of cheating. Even though it is very common in our society, I do believe that cheaters usually commit their acts because of neediness or desperation. On the surface, it may appear that they are insatiable, greedy nymphomaniacs, but maybe they just feel emptiness.
Today, I want talk about what we can actively do in our own relationships to prevent cheating. Most infidelity is usually not an impromptu act. There are a chain of events and circumstances that have made a person vulnerable to cheating. So I want to talk about things to recognize as red flags in your own relationship so that you may address the problem and stop that train wreck before it happens.
The first problem we will discuss is when someone stops caring. If it does not matter to you where you go, when she gets in or what color she wants to paint the living room, it is a sign that it is the relationship you are losing interest in. Also, be aware if your girl is shrugging off everything. Nobody wants to fight, but when a person has lost their passion for the relationship, that can be even worse than bickering every now and again. I am not saying start a fight, but bring it up to your girlfriend and see if you all can figure out why or if someone feels unimportant or uninterested.
Next, do you find that everything is more important than your relationship? Have you written your paper, washed and ironed your clothes, did your hair and your nails, cleaned the house, washed your car, visited your grandmother and consoled your friend? Afterwards, did you go to sleep only exchanging a quick good-night kiss? Sometimes, life keeps us so busy and everything seems so important. Before we realize it, we do not even know the woman lying beside us. Sometimes, just take a break from all of the super important things in life. Slow down and just spend time with one another living in the moment. Do not talk about what happened yesterday or what needs to be done by tomorrow. Just be.
The final red flag that I am going to address, although it may not be the only one, is if you are not doing the nasty. We all know about LBD (Lesbian Bed Death), but every now and then, just kick off the sheets and do the deed. There are so many reasons to not do it, but once you are doing it, isn’t it great? If it is just a time thing, make time. If it is a power thing give up. If it isn’t good, talk about it. Say what you like. If that thing she does that she thinks is so amazing gets on your last nerve, tell her. There is no point and no kindness in allowing a person to be bad in the sack. If you are turned off by your spouse, tell them what you want from them. Please do not just say “you are not sexy to me.” Try buying them the type of underwear you like, suggesting a hairstyle or try some role play in which you are the dominatrix and them your submissive and tell them everything they need to do to keep mistress happy.
Well, I hope I gave you some ideas of how to spend your weekend. If not, remember I told you about the Colorado Jazz & R&B Lovers festival at Grant Amphitheatre in Littleton in the last article. Go have fun with your girlfirend and feel free to send me all the details, girls. Check in. – Sheena