It seems to be a trend that we’ve all seen it a million times. Two people date and when it does not work out they swear that they are going to remain friends. Many times they do remain friends, but what happens when they starting meeting people or internet dating? Is this connection between you and an ex healthy? Many people may disagree, but why not just leave the past baggage behind and start anew.
There are some who have actually never remained when with someone they dated or someone they actually had a relationship with and slept with. It is weird. I never understood how someone could go from being in love to just being friends. Shouldn’t they have been friends in the first place? Perhaps if they had, the relationship would have never broken up. This is just a thought, but maybe a thought that has some validity.
What purpose does remaining friends with an ex really have in your life? Does this person have connections that will help you in a career choice? Do they owe you money? What could the reason be? Also, what if you find some new and start dating? How healthy is it to subject this other person to the presence of someone for the past? Sometimes, even talking to an ex about your love can prove unhealthy. If you allow them to give you advice on a new connection, do you believe it will be objective or positive?
I realize that each relationship is different and someone people even think it is cool to be able to tell others that they remain friends with an ex-girlfriend or boyfriend, but is it really cool or a way to hold onto the past. Why is it so important to stay connected to the past? The best way to move on sometimes is to dump the baggage and start brand new.
I know there are people who will disagree and that is fine. I have always been a no nonsense kind of girl. When something is over, I have learned to break away smoothly and move on. I have personally never felt the need to contact an ex for any purpose and my life has been just fine.