As most of us, already heard, Game 6 of The Finals will be airing this Sunday on Channel 10. Before each game, there is some pre gaming that occurs. This pre gaming is when the players and coaches come together and focus on the job that is to be done (playing the game). All players review and get situated in their routines, which prevent any “shockers” from occurring which may throw off the players. Each coach has their own way in getting their team ready to step out of the locker room and play the game. Just as each coach provides a routine to their players, those seeking recovery from disordered eating are in need of their own routine and pre-gaming when taking on their eating disorder (also known as ED).
The Pre game in battling an eating disorder involves a lot of preparation and work to get ready for to get the job done as well. However, in this case the focus is on getting themselves to replace eating disordered behaviors with new coping skills. For a person with an eating disorder they feel as though they are in need to prepare every move in advance to avoid feeling anxiety about the situation. They find themselves preparing for the overwhelming “something bad is going to happen” anxiety. Without a pre game plan and coach to keep them on focus, they can allow their overwhelming anxiety to “put off” what they’re in need of doing with the goal of avoiding their anxious feelings or worry, beforehand. Like basketball, they can “put off” playing and be “benched” as their locker room jitters take over their ability and desire to get out on the courts and play.
ED is sneaky and pretends it knows best. It is the destructive voice which ‘beats them up’ and has them believing they are undeserving of good things and not capable of many things. And even when they obey ED, they must deal with the aftermath. Th part when ED feeds them the lie that they had just averted a disaster by avoiding their fears instead of facing them. Leaving them to believe it is safer to be on the bench, then in the game of life. In a sense, they have surrendered to ED. They have surrendered to fear, rather than facing it.
The fact of the matter is that surrendering to recovery is vital. Those with eating disorders must learn how to surrender to recovery, rather than surrendering to ED. When many hear the word “surrender” they may panic and feel the need to regain control. But surrendering to a new way of living and still staying in charge is done by being in charge of how they respond to all the inevitable events in life. They can give up control of their eating disordered lives but still stay in charge of it! Think on the page of Basketball coaches and players must do al they can to prepare for a game. But an inevitable event may occur during the game, a player gets injured, the playbook isn’t followed r working as expected, etc. This is when the coaches and players must surrender. They can surrender to the events, but still be in charge on how to respond. They can respond by forfeiting the game and watch the game pass them by, or taking charge and responding to these inevitable events with strength, creativity, and supporting one another.