Forgiveness – Are you serious? Forgive another woman who took the love of my life from me and my children?
Forgiveness is a powerful word, especially when a third party comes between a married couple and the victim is left with the choice to forgive or enmesh in unforgiveness.
The truth of the matter is we are living in a society that marriage is not taken seriously. Individuals marry for various reasons.
A mother of two children married when she was nineteen years old. She thought – this will last until death – well it was until death, but nothing like she expected.
Her husband left her for another woman prior to the birth of their youngest child. The emotional turmoil that she experienced was unbearable. She felt as though she had lost everything but her mind, even though holding on to the elements of her mind was challenging. The thought of leaving her children was not a question. She had to live for them.
She vividly remembers the time and date that she learned her husband had been murdered. She was at the Sacramento Municipal Court applying for a restraining order – because of the difficulties she had encountered during their separation.
As she was leaving the court for lunch, prior to returning and completing the restraining order process, she saw a friend running toward her saying, “You don’t have to do it.” She wondered what she was talking about – after repeating it many times – she looked at her friends facial expression and stated, “he’s dead” yes, her friend replied.
Seventeen years later, she faced the woman who was the mistress of her deceased husband, and the mother of her husband’s other child.
The child had learned at an early age that he had a brother and sister, and he wanted to meet them. His mother made every effort to locate the other mother and honor her son’s wishes. But what the mother did not know, the mother of two had already forgiven her.
Forgiveness is when you no longer have feelings of resentment, anger, jealousy, and strife, toward an individual that may have offended, hurt, disappointed, lied, or resented you.
The two mothers met and talked woman to woman about the situation that had happened seventeen years earlier. They learned that the chatter, gossip, and lies of others had caused a delay in them meeting each other when the children were young. But the fact that it happened was comforting for both mothers.
Their initial meet, and greet was not left without a challenge.
To be continued…