While doing some research I came a crossed this list of etiquette for military spouses at eHow.com. Some of the list makes sense; however some of it is obviously outdated and just plain, well, stupid! So, of course I have to add my two cents in; it just wouldn’t be right for me to leave well enough alone. Enjoy!!
Walk on your spouse’s left side. This allows your spouse to salute others as appropriate.
“Okay, I’ll give them this one. It is proper and makes sense.”
Refer to your spouse by name and not by rank.
“The end of this sentence should say “In public” If you want to call him Commander Sweet cheeks at home, you go right ahead sweetie!”
Stand when a senior officer enters a room at a public function or ceremony.
“Is it just me or are they making this sound like its rocket science? Yes, it is respectful to stand when an officer enters the room but, it is not required. My advice, keep a watchful eye on the other spouses; if you’re unsure of what to do, if they stand then get up!”
Provide your spouse with a black umbrella during rainy days. It is considered “unmilitary” to carry any other color.
“I was thinking that I would send my soldier out with a purple umbrella; I just love the way it brings out his eyes!”
Push the baby stroller or carriage when out in public. It is considered unmilitary for a soldier to do so when in uniform.
“I have heard that it is semi not ok for them to carry the children while in uniform but I have never heard that a soldier can’t push a stroller. This is one of those, “If you say so,” moments.”
Refrain from public displays of affection, including holding hands (except during homecomings and goodbyes).
“We are going to redo this one to make it a bit easy to understand.
Refrain from making out and making love in public while your soldier is in uniform!”
Do not refer to your spouse’s orders as “our orders” unless you are also a soldier.
“If the orders are for PCS then by all means they are the entire family’s orders. If he is deploying or training then those can be your soldier’s orders.”
Greet other service members by rank and not as “sir” or “ma’am”.
“This is another self explanatory; though most NCO’s and Officers I have met usually correct me and ask me to call them by their first name. Best to follow this one until you get told otherwise.”
Never let the children play dress up in your spouse’s uniform. Uniforms with insignias, badges and tabs are to be worn by applicable military personnel only.
“Oh give me a break! What soldier and spouse haven’t let the little ones try on the boots or head gear? I know a few wives who have done it!”
Honor, respect and support your spouse.
The point is to remember that this list pertains mostly to being in public, hence the etiquette part. I am sure we all have some sort of common sense floating around in our heads. Support your troops and merry soldier!
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