Maria Shriver got her revenge on Arnold Schwarzenegger for cheating on her, by leaking the story of his mistress Patty Baena and their love child to the media.
According to TMZ, Maria Shriver was so hysterical when she first found out, that she wanted to hold a press conference and personally leak the story herself, in order to get revenge.
Her friends were able to talk her out of it, and helped her contrive a plan to leak the story to the Los Angeles Times and TMZ by other means.
Maria Shriver – the Very Epitome of a Woman Scorned
One can only image the hurt Maria Shriver must feel, especially after defending Schwarzenegger against numerous accusations of groping, or inappropriately touching other women for all these years.
Perhaps she truly thought the women were lying. Or maybe she felt justified in defending her husband by rationalizing that even if the women were telling the truth, Schwarzenegger’s behavior was limited to inappropriate touching and nothing more. See Why the Wife is STILL the Last to Know
It must have been a real slap in the face for Maria to find out that Schwarzenegger, the husband she so staunchly defended, actually had an extramarital affair. See Will You Be the Next Woman to Get Cheated On by Her Mate?
It must have cut Maria even more deeply to find out that during the course of his infidelity, Schwarzenegger had actually fathered a child and kept it a secret for more than 10 years. See How to Get a Cheater to Tell You the Truth about His Affair and 9 Reasons a Cheater Will Lie About His Affair.
To add insult to injury, the final blow to Maria must have been finding out that Schwarzenegger’s mistress and mother of his love child was a long-time member of her household staff – someone she’d known, trusted, and interacted with for almost 20 years. And that the affair had taken place right under her nose, and in her marital bed. See What a Betrayed Wife Stands to Lose by Being the Last to Know.
See Arnold Schwarzenegger’s Mistress, Patty – Photos and the Inside Scoop.
Click here to see a slideshow with pictures of Arnold Schwarzenegger’s Latina Mistress, Patty Baena or see the slideshow on the left.
This was a dual betrayal of the highest order. No wonder Maria Shriver sought revenge.
You can understand why she felt justified in humiliating Schwarzenegger by leaking the story of his infidelity, and his love child to the press. See Why Husbands Cheat and 25 Reasons Why Men Cheat
But what did it really accomplish?
Was it necessary for Maria Shriver to make a public spectacle of her marriage?
Weren’t there other courses of action for her to take? See 7 Ways to Catch Your Cheating Husband Off Guard by Making a Preemptive Strike
Did Maria’s revenge justify all the pain it caused?
Maria Didn’t Need to Prove Infidelity in Order to Get a Divorce
According to reports, Maria Shriver has been miserable in her marriage for quite some time, and has been contemplating separation or a divorce for years. She apparently put things on hold several times, for various reasons, including the deaths of her parents, Eunice Kennedy Shriver, and Sargeant Shriver. See If He’s Cheating, Take a Firm Stand.
According to reports, several months ago, Maria moved out of the home she and Schwarzenegger shared, and into a posh Beverly Hills hotel.
If Maria Shriver wanted to divorce her husband, that’s certainly her prerogative.
However, California, like many other states, is a “No Fault” divorce state. It’s not a legal necessity for the spouse who wants a divorce to prove that the other spouse had an affair.
So it was totally unnecessary for Maria Shriver to publicly drag the father of her children through the mud.
What purpose – other than revenge – did it really serve?
Because she was deeply hurt, Maria wanted to strike out at everyone else. At least she didn’t try to retaliate by having an affair of her own. See Revenge Cheating is a Common Female Response to Infidelity and 3 Kinds of Revenge Affairs and Why They Should Be Avoided At All Costs
But what did Maria Shriver accomplish by leaking the story to the press?
The children are really the ones who got hurt.
- She subjected the children involved – her 4 children and the son of Schwarzenegger’s mistress – to a great deal of emotional trauma that could have been avoided had she dealt with the matter quietly, behind the scenes.
- She exposed herself to public ridicule for being so naïve, or for turning a blind eye to her husband’s behavior for so many years – depending on whether one believes that she did, or didn’t know.
- She publicly humiliated her estranged husband, and the father of her children. See See How Betrayed Wives and Other Infidelity Victims Get Revenge on Their Cheating Mates.
- She made a public spectacle of a private matter when there was really no need for the public to know.
Did Maria Shriver Really Have the Best Interests of the Children at Heart?
In her official statement to the media, Maria Shriver said:
As a mother, my concern is for the children.
I ask for compassion, respect and privacy as my children and I try to rebuild our lives and heal.
But Maria Shriver’s statement about her concern for the children doesn’t ring true.
No matter how anfry or upset Maria may have been at discovering Schwarzenegger’s infidelity, and the fact that he’d fathered a child with his mistress, there was nothing to be gained by leaking this information to the press.
The children are the ones who are bearing the brunt of Maria’s revenge. They are the ones who are going to be hurt the most.
Two of the Schwarzenegger children, 21-year old Katherine and 17-year old Patrick, are tweeting back and forth to each other, to their friends, and to the world at large, about the hurt, disappointment, confusion and mixed emotions they feel, since the story of their father’s infidelity broke.
One can only imagine the emotional turmoil Schwarzenegger’s secret son is going through, on finding out at this point in his young life, that Arnold Schwarzenegger is his real dad.
The interests of the children certainly were not served by Maria Shriver leaking the story to the media.
Nor did it help the healing process in any way.
Was Maria Shriver’s revenge against Arnold Schwarzenegger worth it?
From the viewpoint of the 5 children involved, definitely not.
For alternatives to the path of revenge Maria Shriver chose, request a free copy of the infidelity tip sheet entitled How to Legally and Financially Get Revenge on a Cheating Mate by sending an e-mail to InfidelityInfo@gmail.com with “Revenge tip Sheet” in the subject line.
For updates on the Maria Shriver – Arnold Schwrzenegger situationand other celebrity infidelity news, visit www.CelebrityInfidelity.com, or see the list below.
For practical, immediately-usable advice on dealing with issues of infidelity, see the list of articles and resources below, or visit www.NationalInfidelity@gmail.com.
*** © copyright 2011 Ruth Houston / All Rights Reserved.
Ruth Houston is a New York-based infidelity expert who is frequently called on by the media to comment on high profile infidelity and popular infidelity issues in the news. She is the founder of www.InfidelityAdvice.com, the author of Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs, and publishes the Infidelity News and Views blog. To interview infidelity expert Ruth Houston, or have her speak at your next event, call 718 592-6029 or e-mail InfidelityExpert@gmail.com
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7 Ways to Catch Your Cheating Husband Off Guard by Making a Preemptive Strike
Why the Wife is STILL the Last to Know
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How to Get a Cheater to Tell You the Truth about His Affair
9 Reasons a Cheater Will Lie About His Affair
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Why Celebrities, Politicians, Sports Stars and other Rich and Famous Men Cheat
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