In What Parents Should Know to Prepare for Prom Night? moi posted the following information:
The Partnership for a Drug Free America has some great advice for parents on prom night:
For a Safe Prom Night: Parents, Please Don’t Serve Alcohol to Teens
Survey: Parents Let Their Own Experiences Affect Drug and Alcohol Boundaries Set for Teens at Prom and Graduation Parties
The emphasis is on limiting alcohol use and keeping in touch with your child. Letty Maldando echoes the advise to keep in touch with your teen in her ehow article, How to Plan a Safe Prom Night for Your Teen
Prepare a complete itinerary of the prom night events. Include:
*Prom pre-party, party, and post party location information
*Phone numbers – friends, locales, limo driver, prom chaperones, etc…
*List of people they’ll be with – include phone numbers and parent info
Make sure that both you and your teen have a copy of the itinerary so that you can reach other in an emergency.
Discuss prom night safety issues well in advance. This should not be something that parents should be shouting at teens as they are leaving. Prepare what information you want to share. Bring notes if you think you might trip up on your words. Don’t be shy about the topics (alcohol, drugs, sex). If need be, pull out some news stories and pictures of the consequences of unsafe behavior. Sometimes visual aids are more memorable than a lecture.
Agree on an “unconditional” call for your help and/or a ride home if something should happen. If you are worried that your child won’t call you (even with this agreement) then assign a trusted relative, friend, or neighbor that will take the phone call and help them out of whatever the situation may be.
Hire a driver to ensure that your teen has reliable transportation. If this is not financially feasible then make sure that you know the person who will be driving on prom night. Meet your teen’s friends and don’t be afraid to have the “no drinking and driving” conversation with them as well.
Set up a check in time for each part of the evening. If they are going to be hopping around to several locations make sure to receive a call from them as they arrive at each place. If your teen doesn’t want to call in or misses a check in then set up a text message that they can respond to with a code word that indicates that they’re doing well. It’s best to speak to them directly but a text message is the next best thing.
According to Maldando and the Partnership for a Drug Free America, parents should communicate both before and during the prom. They should know what their children’s plans for are for the evening.
Jack Broom is reporting in the Seattle Times article, Lake Washington HS Plans Alcohol Test to Enter Prom
Every student at Lake Washington High School’s June 4 senior prom would be tested for alcohol consumption under a plan in the works by school officials — departing from the school’s past practice of testing only students who showed signs of alcohol use.
“At every dance this year, there have been issues with students drinking,” said Kathryn Reith, spokeswoman for the Lake Washington School District. “The principal wanted to make sure that at the prom, there was more of a deterrence….”
Although school-district officials say they haven’t heard any objection to the change, Doug Honig, spokesman for the American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU) of Washington, said the policy sounds similar to “blanket searches” that courts have ruled against in the past.
“Our view is that public schools shouldn’t be searching or testing their students without any indication or suspicion that a student is doing something wrong,” Honig said.
“A blanket policy that treats every student as a suspect is not a good civics lesson in our society.”
Honig said he wasn’t aware of the Lake Washington High School policy and does not know if the ACLU would get involved.
In 2008, the Washington Supreme Court struck down a Southwest Washington school district’s policy of random drug testing of student athletes, which was conducted without suspicion of a specific offense.
But Reith said the new policy at Lake Washington, to test everyone at an event, is similar to one used for several years at Redmond High School, in the same school district….
Statewide, the use of alcohol-detection equipment is “not an uncommon thing” at school-related functions, said Linda Farmer, spokeswoman for the state principals association.
Farmer said she didn’t know how many districts might have policies of testing everyone at an event.
Teresa Wippel, spokeswoman for Seattle Public Schools, said her understanding is that security officers working Seattle proms watch for students who exhibit signs of alcohol or drug use and are not testing all present.
Things have sure changed from back in the day.
1. Prom Night Perils
2. A Prom Night Plan: Avoiding the Perils of Drunk Driving
3. Straight Talk About Sex
4. Negotiate and Enforce Curfews
5. Keeping Teens Safe and Sober on Prom Night
6. Prom Lessons Learned the Easy Way
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