With all the social networking sites available, internet users are being exposed to a multitude of other people. When surfing the websites of activities you enjoy, the people you meet often times share your same interests. So what happens when you become involved with someone you met online? If you’re married, does being involved in an online relationship constitute cheating?
There are many factors to take into account in order to determine if you’re cheating.
- Are you hiding this relationship from your spouse?
- Have you password protected your computer so it can only be accessed by you?
- Are you confiding in the other person instead of your spouse?
- Has the excitement to “chat” with them overtaken the desire to spend time with your spouse?
- Do you pass up quality time with your spouse so you can be online?
- Do you think about meeting this person face to face?
- Has your chatting become sexual in nature?
- Would your spouse be hurt by your online “friendship”?
If you answered yes to these questions, you’re involved in an “emotional” affair. Urbandictionary.com defines infidelity as “unfaithfulness to a sexual partner”. By now you should have reached the conclusion that yes you are cheating.
“The minute you open yourself intimately, regardless if it’s verbally, emotionally, or sexually to someone else who isn’t your spouse…the intent is there.” – Lina Bouc
“Depends on the relationship. It doesn’t bother me if the purpose is friendship or the exchange of ideas, however, when it gets sexual or becomes more important than the primary relationship, it is dangerous.” – Lynn Farris
Your spouse is the person who should be the one meeting your needs, emotionally as well as physically. By engaging in an online relationship, you are essentially replacing your spouse. You need to ask yourself if the person is worth the risk of destroying your marriage. If they aren’t then you need to cut off all contact. Just thnk, if you would have put the same amount of energy and enthusiasm into your marriage you probably wouldn’t be in this position.
It’s always easier to engage in a new relationship than it is to put the work into the one you have. There is not now, nor will there ever be an acceptable excuse for cheating.
If your marriage is struggling and you feel marriage counseling will benefit you and your spouse, try the Austin Family Institute. “Austin Family Institute, a marriage and family training program, provides all counseling on a sliding scale fee, making it affordable for everyone.” Visit their website or contact them at 512-329-6611.
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