So as anyone who has been married for years will know, your sex life can become dull. This isn’t anyone’s fault, over time people’s natural fall into routines. This can be great when it comes to watching the Albuquerque news at night during dinner but when it comes to sex this can become dull and un-pleasurable. If you find yourself in this situation here are some tips to pull out your wife’s natural freak.
Remember she isn’t like you
Remember a women’s libido isn’t like yours. It’s more like a freight train, slow going and takes time to get up to speed. You need to take your time, include foreplay, oral sex, and sensual innuendo during conversations. There are a lot of ways that you can find to turn your wife on. If at any time either you or your partner find you have problems with your libido you should see a doctor as this may be a medical problem.
Talk about sex
It may surprise you that the simplest way to find what is missing from your sex life is to talk about it. You may find that the reason for the same routine is that is what she is comfortable with. Let her know that you are bored with it and see what else you can try. Words of warning. According to The Rape Crisis Center of Central New Mexico, 1 in 4 women have been or have attempted to be raped in their lifetimes. Due to this and other factors some women are not comfortable talking about sex. If she is not comfortable about it, don’t push the issue.
Now if you have no idea on how to give a massage, research it. There are many great websites and books on how to give a simple massage. The only major difference between a normal massage and a sensual massage is include soft touches, kisses to body parts (not genitals), use warm oils, candle light and soft music. This is a sure fire way to fire up her libido.
Know the female body
Your sex life may be lacking due to your knowledge of how to stimulate you wife. Go online and research female stimulation and techniques to stimulate your wife. The internet if full of websites offering tips on this subject. Who know, you may find out things even your wife doesn’t know.
Experiment in bed
First, what you see in adult movies isn’t real. If you think you are going to try something from an adult movie, talk to your wife about it first. Second try reading the Karma sutra. There are several different versions the Karma sutra on the market. Third research online, you can find many websites out there with tips on sexual related topics. Try visiting an adult bookstore in Albuquerque. Finally respect her boundaries, if she isn’t comfortable with doing something, don’t force the issue. Sex should be pleasurable for both of you.
Think about the last time you went on a romantic date with your wife. Plan out a romantic evening with your wife and arrange to have someone watch the children, overnight. Treat her like you are on your first date, open the car door for her, look at her with sensual eyes and a lot of soft touches and hand holding. Warning: let your wife know; don’t surprise her as this can back fire. For ideas about where to take your spouse click here.
In short a dull sex life is treatable. Whatever you find will work best for you, do it. The only thing worse than a dull sex life is a lack of a sex life and a dull sex life can lead to the lack of one.
If you have any questions about this article or other marriage issue you may have please contact me at Jared_Earickson@live.com