One thing to keep in mind as both a parent and as a member of a family and community is that each one of us is an individual. Even when each child or member of the family is treated exactly the same, each individual will have a different way of responding to a parenting or teaching approach. The way a child responds to parenting is based upon how favorable a match the parenting or teaching is to the child’s temperament and personality.
Temperament is often seen as part of our personality or the way we were at birth, regardless of parenting or any types of social interactions. It is something that remains fairly consistent throughout much of our lives. The definition at Dictionary.com states that temperament is, “ …the combination of mental, physical, and emotional traits of a person; natural predisposition.”
For example, intelligence is one aspect of temperament. Children are born with a certain level of intelligence. Another might be whether a child is shy or outgoing, or happy or fussy or sensitive. While a child’s intelligence may change due to schooling throughout their lives, parents may want to keep in mind that children can only achieve what their intellectual levels will allow them to achieve. Some children may be more creative and may not excel in areas like math, while other children may have superior reasoning skills, but not excel in reading or writing. Each child will vary in each individual area and even when the parenting or schooling is the same, each person will react differently to the parenting and schooling and there will be a different learning outcome. So some children will respond positively to being strongly encouraged in school and at home, while others respond more favorably to a more hands-off approach, while other children will need to have extra assistance both in school and at home.
In addition to a child’s intelligence level, the emotional and physical attributes of the child will further determine how the child responds to parenting and schooling. A child that is shy and introverted may not speak out as often to parents and teachers, and this will impact his or her ability to learn and comprehend. There may be other children that are active and outgoing, and some of these children may have more difficulty staying focused, which would also impact how well the parenting or teaching approach impacts their behavior and learning ability.
In the Marina Del Rey area, The Los Angeles County Department of Children and Family Services page “For Parents” has many excellent resources and links for parents interested in getting more information regarding parenting and programs available to assist them and their children.