Father’s day is this weekend, and we have a lot of fathers to thank. We’ll start with single dads. Let’s face it, just as single moms do, single dads have a tough job and it is one that should be recognized and honored.
Often single dads are in the position of having to be both mom and dad. They are working full-time and then picking up the kids, cooking, making sure the homework is done, reminding kids about baths, and making sure they get to bed at a decent hour. If the dad was married and the marriage ended, there is undoubtedly a great learning curve associated with his new role. It’s tough adjusting to not only bringing home the bacon, but also frying it up in a pan.
A dad in this position is doing his best to meet the needs of his children, and also trying to have a life himself without feeling guilty. He keeps up with the usual activities of the week and tends to additional duties such as attending his kids’ sporting events, attending parent/teacher conferences, awards ceremonies, etc. On the weekend, he does all the chores that two parents would do such as grocery shopping, laundry, dry cleaning, taking the kids to church, going to the bank, mowing the lawn, and continuing to take the kids to extracurricular activities. Every time he turns around, someone is asking for money and he wonders where in the world all his money is going.
When his kids are out and he has a moment to himself, he worries about them and their safety. He knows they have to venture out and have some independence and fun, but he can’t truly relax until everyone is home and safe in their beds. He tries to plan activities and vacations for he and his kids to make sure that he is spending quality time and building memories, but sometimes it’s difficult to juggle everyone’s schedules and find the extra money to make it happen. At times he has to have tough conversations with his kids when they are upset about their parents’ divorce, or sad that their other parent passed away.
I’m not sure single dads have any time to sleep, much less have fun and “have a life.” It’s a heavy load that they are carrying and it is tough to balance everything. Being a parent is the hardest job in the world and trying to be two parents at the same time is even harder. Let’s salute the single dads who are trying to give their kids the gift of a childhood full of love, security, and safety and doing it on their own. If you know a single dad, make sure to wish him a Happy Father’s Day this year. He deserves it.