Saying or even looking at the word happiness empowers us. The word itself is light and full, and yes those things can go together. So what is it about happiness that seems so jubilant? The biggest point to discuss is the very goal of happiness. Each of us truly wishes to be happy. There are those we can think of who are not happy. It is safe to say that everyone aspires to happiness. Does everyone get there? No. But that doesn’t mean that the goal isn’t or wasn’t present at one time. The reason we are here is to experience joy, to know Love and truth.
Films and books purport that the world is a setting for the ultimate “battle”, good and evil. And while that may serve Hollywood, it does not serve us. It makes for exciting cinema but it is not the nature of existence. The nature of existence is to experience Love and Joy. It seems wildly simplistic, doesn’t it. It is. But to give it a little more weight ( not that it needs it ) the goal of Love and Joy can be, and hopefully should be, experienced within the context of growth and service to others. And growth is both personal and global.
We can experience Joy alone. In fact, we feel joy the most when it radiates from within. It grows exponentially when we share it with others, when we connect with each other in a jubilant context. One of the greatest challenges many face in the search for happiness is the perception that it lives outside the body. Graver still is the perception that it is a search. In the defense of most, everywhere we turn there are references that allude to that premise; our happiness resides outside of who we are. So many times we hear of advertisers extolling the virtues of their products. In almost all of their pitches the pervasive belief is that if we purchase, rent or own their product we will experience Joy. We all see it. We watch the luxury car ads that show the joyous couple zipping about through city traffic, radiant smiles upon their faces, rays streaming through the sunroof. They might as well just say it..”Buy these wheels and the smile is yours!!”.
And it isn’t just products. It’s services as well. How many dating sites are there on the internet these days. How many vehicles for finding “the one”, are out there. It might even be safer to say that the push to find someone to supply happiness is even greater than the luxury cars, the teeth whiteners and detergents combined. And that is the greatest disservice.
We spoke before of how everyone searches for happiness yet some never find it. There are those we know who are angry ,sad or lonely. These people, most often, have a string of failed relationships. There are myriad reasons why, but the biggest is the belief that their happiness resides in another person. Their soul advises them it is not the case. Yet they remain unaware of the wisdom their soul possesses. It is these people who have truly expended all the energy they know in search of something that resides in the depth of their soul; in the very core of their being! So many venues push us to find “someone”. So many sources shout to us to find our soulmate. It is this very noise that keeps us deaf to the source of our happiness, our soul. So many people look to date, wed or couple in an effort to mitigate their sadness. Millions of people spend time and money to buy products to enhance their desirability. Untold numbers look to find someone who supposedly holds the key to their happiness.
With unmitigated certainly it is safe to say that no one will ever achieve happiness unless they find it within themselves.
This statement stands alone, above for a very powerful reason. It is powerful. Even from a cognitive perspective it is easy to see. Who is in charge of our feelings? We are. We feel happy. We feel sad. We alone create the emotional responses within ourselves. No one else does. So if we are the creators of our emotions then why would we think another can provide happiness?
Upon reading that it is clear where the breakdown is. It is in the misbelief that others control our destiny, that others pull strings to get us to react a certain way. Even modern vernacular points to that premise.
“He/She really pushes my buttons.”. We all have heard that a hundred times at least. Those who express those sentiments are clearly under the misperception that someone else has the power to get them to react a certain way. How tragically disempowering it is when we do not take responsibility for our emotions. And most of all for our happiness.
Have we strayed from our topic? Not at all. We hopefully now know that no one can make us feel happy. No husband, no wife, boyfriend/girlfriend, family member or significant other can ever create joy for us.
It gets confusing because we fall in Love or spend time with someone who makes us happy and our belief is that they are responsible for creating that joy. The truth is that they are mirroring a joy that already exists within us.
Once again our happiness is within us. The most reliable way to access that joy is to know ourselves. We can achieve that goal when we find time away from the crowds to listen to our soul in silence. When we perfect the ability to listen to our soul it is not difficult at all to see where our joy resides.
Connect to your inner joy with a look to the sunny skies. Find the inner bliss that resides in seeing the smile of a child. Feel that smile radiate as it connects to your memories of infancy, when the world was new to you. When you knew the truth; that you are God. That you are Light. And that you are Joy. Know that wisdom. It exists as easily in the heart of a child as it does in each of at this very moment.
With Light and Love,