Why are some people happy and others not? There are certain personal qualities that contribute to one’s ability to be “happy” under most circumstances. Check out the list below and discover how you too can integrate better life skills easily into your life…
1. Flexibility. The old saying of “once you make a plan, God laughs,” has proven true time and time again. Being able to adjust to changing life events with flexibility and ease, directly leads to happiness. Think of the energy it takes to get upset that your dinner reservations fell through, instead of being open to something different? When did normal life shifts become something to be insulted by? Next time the plans change, try rolling with it a little more.
2. Don’t take it personally. As my father wisely once said, “Some people are just jerks.” You can be assured in your life, you will encounter some real brats, difficult situations, unfairness and dishonesty among other assorted crap. Promise. And the person sitting next to you, so will he/she. The same goes with any other person you meet in your life too. We are all stumbling through at times. We are all saints and sinners depending on the day. So, relax, take a breath. When the challenging situation arises (as they will) imagine solutions. Focus on solutions, not fault or assigning blame. Fault and blame only distract you from the possibilities of success.
3. Humor. Once you are able to either laugh at yourself or see the ridiculous in any situation, you bring lightness to your heart thus opening your perspective to more. Laughter feels good. Watch funny movies, read amusing books, talk to a friend who always makes you laugh, go bowling. Just by adding more laughter to your life, you will allow a gentle, quiet lightness to enter your thoughts and being ~ opening your life to better days.
4. Positive attitude. I am not suggesting to live like some annoying, over-the-top Polly-Anna, but to live your life on the foundation that, “all is well.” This isn’t to deny there are problems or tragedies in life, but a positive attitude does focus on solutions and what is working.
5. Gratitude. Happy people are reminded each day of their blessings – the good and the difficult. As much as it drives me nuts, challenges are opportunities. Opportunities to learn, to grow and most importantly, to know yourself better. True gratitude is born out of compassion – just as much for yourself as for others as well.
6. Confidence. Not swaggering, but a calm knowing of ones own abilities. Confidence also means knowing you will stumble on occasion, but the confident person knows to learn from mistakes and not to make a habit of them.
7. Presence. Happy people live right now, in this moment – not dreaming about yesterday or fantasying about tomorrow. Living right here and now – laughing about the things that others might be frustrated by, and knowing all is well…
8. Choice. All happy people know happiness is a choice. Some days it’s easier to be happy, while other days may be a bit more of a struggle. However, knowing that you have the choice to lift yourself up or push yourself down – often leads to better decisions.
Happiness is not derived from one isolated event, but by the attitudes and beliefs that you live your life with each day. Some attitudes are healthy and some are not. Gratefully, like choice, each of us has the power to change our beliefs with time and attention if need be.
Happiness isn’t for someone else, it is for you. It’s time to sink deeply into the happiness of this moment, however mundane. Happiness waits for you to notice it’s been waiting here all along.