Foster Parents; Did you know?
Allegations. Part 5 of 6.
Allegations; a issue that is crucial to all foster parents, imperative to your survival, your ability to continue serving your communities and your country.
Some of the questions/comments asked in our workshops across the country, are; See a complete list of questions, comments in part 1 (or just click on the link for each question).
- 5. Will the agency remove my foster children?
This is a difficult question to answer there are so many variations to allegations that nothing is for certain, this goes double when you are dealing with a government entity that literally does what it wants when it wants. There are no absolutes in this equation. Do not misunderstand what we are saying, there are statutes covering these steps, however, they rarely follow them.
Therefore, theatrically, we can respond emphatically yes they will remove your foster children if the allegation is of a sexual or physical nature.
- For example, if the mandated reporter said that you hit, slapped, or spanked your child that is of a physical nature, therefore, removal is almost inevitable. If the accusation is that you used the time out method of discipline and your social worker, happens to disagree with this method of discipline, depending on what side of the bed she/he got up on that day removal is probably going to take place. If the allegation is that the child had a bruise on his cheek, removal most assuredly will take place, possibly. It all depends on circumstances. Now you begin to see a pattern, nothing is for sure.
If the allegation is not of a serious nature, like raising your voice to a child, slapping a child’s hand for putting items in your basket at the market, minor infractions breaking their rules.
Write this down, commit to memory.
“Abuse is in the eye of the beholder”.
Another aspect that you need to be aware of is something called a C.A.P. (Corrective Action Plan).Links to our series on that subject for you convenience; Part 1 / Part 2. It is in essence a confession.
Your agency has two options, 1). Investigate the allegation make a determination if it is founded 2). Revoke your license. There is another option offered to them, close out the allegation in order to keep you on as a foster parent by your admitting that you did wrong, accepting their correction plan. Sometimes this includes anger management classes (paid for by you) counseling, etc.
- Never, never sign anything without first reading it, never let anyone rush you into signing a document. Take your time and read it carefully. Is it an accurate description of what took place, ie; if they phrase time out for ten minutes as if you left the child in the corner for an unreasonable amount of time, make them spell out what an excessive amount of time means? They may slip a phrase in there that indicates “you slapped the child” rather than reality “placing a hand over the mouth of a fourteen year old cursing sassing, teenager. Make perfectly sure it is accurate before you sign it.
Continue reasing; next up; #6. What about my biological children?