Foster Parents; Did you know?
Allegations. Part 4 of 6.
Allegations; essential to all foster parents, vital to your survival, your ability to continue serving your communities and your country.
Some of the questions/comments asked in our workshops across the country, are;
See a complete list of our questions and or comments in Part 1 / Part 2 / Part 3 (or just click on the link for each question)
- 4. Waiting, the hardest part.
Are you a patient person? Your about to enter a patience teaching nightmare, a nightmare called allegations. A storm that no one tells you is coming your way. Suddenly you wake up and find your entire family sitting in the eye of a hurricane wondering how you came to be there? The saddest part about this storm is no one offers any instruction on this devastating subject, why is that?
Our biggest problem with the Foster Care System is they are always complaining they never have enough foster parents, logic says if you expose your biggest asset to unannounced storms you will not have them after the storm has passed. Warning, and preparing us, educating us on what to expect when an allegation is filed, learning the proper way to document is critical to our continuing to foster. As foster parents we want to assist children who desperately need us, but at what cost to us? Why does no one mention the cost, why?
*Note; the link above in the word document is the first part of a ten part series. Learn, educate yourself.
- Each moment you wait, each knock at your door makes your heart palpitate, it feels as if your heart has dropped to your feet. You change during this time, you become defensive, paranoia sets in, you discover that trusting is harder than it was before. Allegations; the word that strikes fear in a foster parents heart.
Waiting, the hardest part. During this time, you will not be told anything. Not where your foster children are, no goodbyes, no explanations given to the already traumatized children who are ripped literally from your arms just as they were ripped from their biological homes. Whose protecting these children? A system that declares you guilty until proven innocent? A system that removes children on a hotline tip?
The first thing you can do is to try to occupy your mind with preparation for your day in court. How; start by getting your copy of “Standing in the Shadow of Law”, if it is not available yet *write to our office and we send you a free copy.
Start working on your case, now before you receive the investigative report in the mail you will then be given days to prepare, so get busy now. Seek assistance, find other foster parents who have been through this, suggestion nfpcar.org where there are hundreds to ask questions, or write to * [email protected] Your Foster Families Examiner will answer your questions. Our national toll free number is 877-FPA-CHILD
Continue reading; next up #5. Will they remove my foster children?