Charlie Sheen revamps the marriage model with a wife, two live in girlfriends and children; Arnold Swartzenegger sires a baby outside the confines of marriage to Maria Shriver, and of course who can forget the Tiger Woods escapades?
John Edwards and Gavin Newsome also fell into temptation of going outside of marriage and violating the sanctity of someone else’s marriage fo fulfill sexual gratification respectively.
The real price for adultry may have temporarily escaped all except Tiger Woods, but at what cost long range?http://www.washingtonpost.com/sports/golf/tiger-woods-days-of-dominance-might-be-histroy/2011/05/13/AFLJRI2G_story.html
Winning?….sorry, Charlie Sheen’s display of the marriage model is more like LOSING. His fame and fortune may insulate himself from the normal pitfalls that arrangements like this makes. We will see how his childen develops and what values they incorporate. Enjoying the pleasures of sin for a season is an expensive long term consequence; usually more than the payer is able to bear. Hollywood’s boneyard is full of the results of reckless permissive behavior.
A haughty spirit has difficulty meshing with a similar spirit which requires a degree of submission from both parties. Dying to self is a difficult task for those that promote self image in the glamour of Hollywood.
The marriage construct of husband and wife with added concubines is an old one. The dynamics of “girlfriends” living with wife. husband, and children rarely is constructive. The triangle of Abraham, Sarah and Hagar with offspring demonstrates that jealousy and trust issues are difficult to manage even under the most pristine situation.http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hagar_(biblicall_person)
Both King David and his son Solomon chose the path of having multiple wives and concubines, but neither David nor Solomon solved the puzzle of marital bliss or having well adjusted children. David’s family was extremely disfunctional with adulty, rape, murder, jealousy and rebellion signaturing the results of permissive behavior in David’s children…. behavior not too different from Hollywood’s ill advised behavior.
Nowhere in the bible does God ordain or instruct multiple marriage contracts. Although a popular pagan practice, especially with the males, the family unit that children thrives best is still the one man one woman contract. God never even suggests the idea of creating multiple matrimony.
It may not be politically correct, but the ideal family unit for rearing children so their development can be maximized is still the husband and wife model.http://www.citienlink.com/2011/04/05/nuclear-families-healthiest-for-children/
Single mothers or fathers are not as successful……period. Breaking up the original unit and utilizing two separate household units as divorced parents are not as successful in child rearing either.
What’s interesting is same sex couples bring a more stabilizing balance to child development than either single female or single male households. Children flourishing under the influence of a same sex household still shows children respond to a “male” or “female” role model which apparently still nurtures healthy psychological responses to child development.
Same sex couples do well in child rearing, but still not as well as the traditional family marriage unit. This gap may be caused by the initial displacement anxiety and mental trauma that typically takes place before same sex couples acquire their children. These kids are damaged goods before anyone has the chance to undo past issues.
Many single females experience discipline problems with their children, not because they are bad mothers, but females are unable to adequately assume the “male” role to full measure. The ongoing male/female development model is a full time job; which may explain why gay couples do better than single parents.http://www.babble.com/CS/blogs/homework/archive/2009/09/29/Divorce_2C00_-custody_2C00_-Parenting.aspx
Setting permanent, fixed boundries in stone is an excellent child rearing tool. Children may not like them, may complain about them and will test them; but healthy mental development will result. Love always expresses itself in limits and boundries….thus the children will equate it with love.http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child_discipline
Marriage is a contract also; expressing itself in various rules, limits and boundries. The relationship will flourish with the pure expressions of love as in I Corinthians 13. Not one mention of sex, feelings or emotions are outline at all in the thirteenth chapter of Corinthians, only expressions of what love really is.
Self promotion, self gratification or selfishness are not present to a high degree in healthy relationships; the less about “me” the better. You can notate that 1 Corinthians 13 is about making personal sacrifices, something that is typically absent in unhealthy relationships whether married or unmarried.
One sure way to gurantee poor development is to stick children into an unstable enviornment where there are shifting displays of “partners” coming and going or unreliable adult role models. It is the most fertile ground for emotional and sexual abuse. Children will “act out” their emotional insecurities. The breaking of the marriage covenant unties the children’s emotional securiy cords which are difficult to repair.http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Acting_out
A sucessful marriage is a collaboration of husband, wife and children. The breaking apart of any part diminishes the success without qualification.