I remember a customer came up to me and asked “What do you have to get rid of these lines and wrinkles”. She pointed a well-manicured finger nail at her “crow’s feet” and assorted lines and wrinkles around her face. “To tell you the truth, nothing” I said. “But I can help you improve the quality of your skin which will give you a more vibrant and youthful appearance.” She didn’t want to hear about vibrant. She wanted results in a magic potion which would take 20 years off her face in 10 minutes. I felt challenged to find that magic appear Poof just like that… Well honestly and truly, in case no one ever told you, that is NOT going to happen. ANYWHERE.
I am not going on a rant about how superficial that woman is nor am I going to judge her, you or me. I only want to tell you that there are true and achievable expectations you can have about the way you look. You just can’t dream “the impossible dream” and not frustrate and sadden yourself. The goal is to love yourself not criticize and judge yourself unfairly. Most of us can’t move beyond the “what product do I need to buy” stage. It’s how we were taught by our mothers and by magazines and TV. We are conditioned to believe in the hype. We love the hype. I hate to say it but we are addicted to the hype. And we pay for the hype to hype us. It’s a mess.
Are you still with me? Don’t leave me now for we are going on a wonderful journey. We are going to the land of peace, sun light, lush trees, gentle ocean breezes, smiling faces. A place where everyone you see will love you and one another. It’s called your oasis. It is within you and you can bring it up at any time. It is right there, right now. It is the place where all is forgiven, there is no rush, you can’t do anything wrong and you have all you need. mmmmmmmm sounds great doesn’t it. Stay there for a while and let your muscles relax and your tension melt.
Make it a daily habit of going to your oasis. You can do it at any time. On a bus, waiting in line, when you first get up in the morning is a great time. It’s called meditation and it is your salvation.
Sitting and doing nothing is the most difficult, mysterious, joyful, painful, profound, and life-changing thing we can do. It is the opposite of what we usually do to try to make ourselves happy. But, IT WORKS.
When you are done with your journey look into the mirror and you will see your true beauty.
An angry face is not a beautiful face. Even though it has the perfect shade of lipstick. A frightened face is not a beautiful face. A beautiful face reflects a beautiful heart, soul and mind.
Whatever you look like is what YOU look like. Just as Lady Gaga says, you were “Born that way”. It won’t change by getting a makeover from a random makeup artist in a busy department store. It is what it is. Go inside find your bliss luxuriate in your dreams and that oasis.
- Just for today
- Don’t worry
- Don’t be Angry
- Do your very best
- Be thankful
- Be kind