Unless you are a recluse, you undoubtedly hear people find fault with others daily, in fact you may have gotten into the habit yourself without realizing it. I think we can safely say we have all done it! Perhaps you have been around people who seem to have nothing else to talk about except to find fault with someone or anything else for that matter! It is also easy to find fault and criticize our spouse as we live with them daily and many opportunities present themselves!
If people do or say something different than the way we would then we find fault with them! If someone has hurt us deeply or has a behavior that is less than what we think is Christian, then we tend to find fault with everything else they do.
Do we find fault with other drivers; our co-workers; our own physical and spiritual brother’s and sisters; maybe even our parents or our grown children? What about our church and the ministry, do we find fault with them? There is a difference between having questions about things and asking for answers but to find fault and to discuss those faults with others is wrong!
The apostle James knew that the brethren were having problems living as Christians should and he instructed them to be aware of how they used their tongues. We can deceive ourselves into thinking we are wonderful Christians if we are not careful!
He instructed them in James 1:26:(KJV) “If anyone thinks to be religious among you, yet does not bridle his tongue, but deceives his own heart, this one’s religion is vain.”
By finding fault with others we become self-righteous, because we are saying to others or ourselves, “I would never do such a thing” or “I would do that differently because I am better than they” or “my way is better” Even if we don’t say those particular words, our fruits show what we are thinking.
James also told them in chapter 4, verse 11 (ERV) “Do not speak evil against one another, brothers. The one who speaks against a brother or judges his brother, speaks evil against the law and judges the law. But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge.”
James 5:9) “Do not complain about each other, brothers, or you will be condemned. Look! The Judge is standing at the door!”
What does Christ expect of us as Christians? We are to let Him mold us by yielding to the Holy Spirit! A post on the Relationship of the Potter and the Clay shows how we are to let God mold and shape us into the character He wants us to be.
And a post on the Challenge to Become Complaint Free is an excellent way to help us get out of the habit of finding fault with others, no matter who they are!
We should be able to stop ourselves when we want to criticize or find fault! Bad habits are hard to break, but this life is all about producing fruits of the spirit and becoming like Jesus Christ Who is our intercessor! Jesus Christ judges us righteously, He doesn’t find fault in us, He intercedes for us to God the Father because Satan is our accuser! Can we appreciate each other more and evaluate each other less? It is our Christian assignment!
The next time we get behind a slow driver we are going to say “Thank you Lord for giving me the opportunity to build patience and to not find fault with this driver.” Aren’t we?
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