Anaheim’s local preschool (name not disclosed to respect the privacy of the school) approaches discipline in a positive way and asked if this article could portray it to assist local parents who might be struggling with disciplinary actions. Parents of children who are enrolled in this Anaheim preschool have contacted the director on many occasions in seeking assistance about positive discipline at the home for an affecive result. The director of the school suggested various tips and ideas to be shared with the parents but also allowed the information to be shared on this article as well.
She first informed the parents that discipline is not about punishment. If a child misbehaves or is defiant, many parents tend to believe that punishing that child for the behavior is the best way, but that is not the case at all. Punishment will only increase the child to continue the behavior because they will soon realize the pattern of misbehaving and being temporarily punished for it. If Johnny hit Sam and Johnny was put on time-out for 2 minutes for hurting his friend, Johnny will soon realize that he could hit his friend as many times as he wants and he only has to sit in time-out for a short period of time. The child does not learn anything from this form of discipline.
The school director suggested that “the key to discipline is REDIRECTION!” Many parents question how affective redirection can be as far as children are concerned at home. Redirection is basically removing the child away from where the problem/ conflict occurred and directing them to another location/materials. For example, if a child is having a problem sharing his legos with his friends and is constantly hurting or being hostile to his friends, the child will be removed from the legos are and will be asked to find something else to work with. Another way to think of it is considering losing a privilege. The child was given a chance to work with his friend on a material but chose not to share. Therefore, he/she will lose the privilege of working with the legos and will have to find another choice of item to work with. If a privilege is taken away from the child, he/she will begin to learn that misbehaving leads to losing privileges or chances and he/she will try hard to maintain that privilege. An example at home could be that if a child refuses to listen a direction, you can offer an incentive/privilege once the child listens. But make sure it’s a not a threat of any sort if the child doesn that listen. Discipline should not be in a negative way but use a positive form or an incentive. Keep in mind that not all children are same and this method of discipline might not always work for ALL children. This is merely a suggestion that has worked for this particular school and is not in any way stating that it will work for all families and children.
Thank you “anonymous director,” from Anaheim for this valuable information.