Jessica J. and Lawercina B. are Elders of a local church. One evening they waited in the parking lot for a meeting. An Elder called the meeting and never showed up. After waiting for fifthteen minutes, they asked the choir director, “Have you heard from him?” She replied, “No, I’m trying to text him now.”
As they sat waiting for another fifthteen minutes, a car drove into the parking lot. It was Elder H. He rolled down his window and said, “He cancelled the meeting.” Everyone responded, “What? Are you serious?”
Furious. Jessica whispered to Lawercina in the car, “I don’t believe, he did this again! I’m tired of him calling meetings and not showing up!”
“Girl, he’s evil. He has a dark cloud over his head.” Lawercina replied.
The next day, the Pastor called a meeting with the two women, and the absent Elder. Apparently, he told the Pastor that he overheard them talking about him. Lawercina didn’t deny his complaint. She responded, “Yes, I said it. I’ll say it again.”
Jessica jumps out of her seat shouting, “You weren’t in the parking lot. How did you hear us? It was a private conversation.”
He lowered his head and replied, “Your phone called me.”
Jessica looked at Lawercina and they both yelled, “That didn’t happen.” The Pastor never said a word.
In Matthew 18:15, Jesus states, “….if thy brother shall trepass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.” Jesus believed, that if someone tries to blemish your name talk to them alone. Here’s a question for you: Is it wrong to secretly plan to expose someone for talking about you?
Jesus wanted them to understand that it also wrong to talk about your brother or sister behind their back. It’s wrong to discuss their faults with others. First, we need to tell them how we feel before discussing it with anyone else.http://www.newtestamentchurch.org
Jesus confirms his teaching in verse 16, “…..if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.” In otherwords, only bring a witness if he/she refuses to talk to you.http://www.learningpeace.com/pages/corporate
Did the Elder follow Jesus teaching?
Jesus stresses in verses 18-20, that Pastors, Elders, and office bearers have a responsibility to read his word. They have power to bind and loose things in the spirit, and he will honor their prayers. Did the Pastor handle the situation correctly?
Verse 20 reminds us that, “For where two or three are gathered together, in my name, there am I, in the midst of them.” Every believer has a responsibility to do what’s right. They have the presence of God in them. If Christians are meeting together in church, worship, meetings, etc. they need to conduct themselves as children of God.
Remember if you disagree with others, don’t talk about them behind their face. Go to them, and let them know your feelings. Please do it in love. If you happen to hear someone talking about you, go to them alone. Don’t expose them by putting them on the spot.
Learn to talk out your differences with Love.