There is no doubt that confidence is the foundation on which success is built. But if you’re not born with it, how do you develop it? There are many organizations, particularly online dating services which feature dating coaches that can help the guy get the girl, but being in a relationship is simply one aspect of life. While researching the many websites related to this service, I found The Art of Charm, the highest-end dating and social dynamics company in the world.
While the initial goal their clients come in with is to develop the skills they need to be more successful with women, this week long comprehensive program offers services to help men develop qualities that will make them more successful in life. I spoke with Jordan Harbinger, co-founder of The Art of Charm about the top three qualities his clients are looking to develop. “Men want to learn how to become more confident. They want to learn how to communicate that confidence with others to become more charismatic, and they want to have the power of selection with women instead of just taking what falls in their lap.”
The first step to developing confidence is to look the part. Body language is a key component of the program and clients are given exercises to help them improve their posture and how they carry themselves so that when they enter a room they make a good first impression. They are also assigned exercises designed to improve eye contact and to help break out of their comfort zones. The idea is to “fake it till you make it” – act the part until it comes naturally and the initial feedback gives them the boost they need to reinforce more confidence which then starts the ongoing cycle of feeling good. When you feel good, you look good.
But the program doesn’t stop at helping men develop non-verbal communication and finding the courage to approach women. They have an entire staff of diverse expert teachers and mentors in many areas, such as communication, relationship experts, behaviorists and dating coaches to help men better relate to women. The ability to communicate effectively and manage personal relationships carries over into business relationships and other social interactions and their students are given follow-up support after the program ends to help ensure continued success. They even have stylists available upon request that can help them change their look and wardrobe.
Lest you think this is all about changing introverted frogs into princes, rest assured that the majority of their clients are highly successful in many areas of their lives except when it comes to developing and maintaining successful relationships with women. Coaches work with men that have esteem issues or fear of rejection and help them identify underlying issues and address them to break out of these negative emotional patterns. Part of this involves videotaping their interactions with women and critiquing them. The men who participate receive constant feedback and Harbinger said he has often witnessed changes in behavior take place within hours. By the end of the week, the coaching, constant feedback and camaraderie with their cohort leaves their clients with measurable improvement. In fact, they are given a report card type of evaluation going in and going out so they can see the areas in which they have made significant gains as well as areas where some continued work is needed. Taking advantage of the online courses, podcasts, and phone support as part of the follow-up reinforces what they learned.
To find out more about this unique program, you can visit their corporate website at TheArtofCharm.com or, for more in-depth information and links to their podcast visit http://afterhello.com/ Their podcast, http://ajandjordantalkchicks.com/, is listened to worldwide and focuses on men’s lifestyle issues and social confidence and features many of the experts and professionals mentioned above. Their week-long program is offered in Los Angeles and New York City. You don’t have to be born with confidence – they’ll teach it to you!