We text during office meetings, we send emails while on the phone, we are on the phone while driving. Busy, busy, busy. In todays world, if we don’t multitask, we run the risk of falling behind, missing a deadline, or letting someone down. STOP and listen to where you are.
Rumi Quote for Sunday – “Since in order to speak, one must first listen, learn to speak by listening.”
Be mindful on purpose. This is not easy for most of us to do. It is something that must be practiced every day, every chance we get. My being mindful in our everyday conversations, we are allowing that person to have the floor, or your attention whole heartedly. Your responses will be genuine, pure, spot on and respectful. You will also be more prepared to listen more, or contribute more. Listening is a difficult skill. Try these steps to help you become more mindful in your daily actions:
1. Begin by starting. What I mean by this is to create some kind of point of entry that you can relate to. A bell, a gong or even a sound from you that indicates it is time to move on to step 2.
2. Prepare your mind before an important phone call or meeting by getting rid of the chatter. Best way to do this is by taking three large breaths inhaling and exhaling. Channel your energy through your breath.
3. When something pops into your mind that is not related to your purpose, release it. If it will not serve you during your call, meeting, conversation, etc., let it go. You might need to do this several times before your mind has cleared out. Continue to be diligent doing this over and over while the people or person you are working with are speaking.
4. Remember, the better we listen, the better ideas we can contribute. Not all conversations need reply and try not to be thinking of your response while others are speaking. Let them have the floor. Be genuine. If in person, have eye contact or nod occasionally.
We all can struggle at times with listening, myself included. The more we practice, the more we listen. A solid yoga practice can also help us to develop the skills of listening better. How many of you have been in a yoga class and have had absolutely no idea what the next pose is and have to listen to every cue the teacher is giving and before you know it, you are doing it! You are there. That was listening! Try it. Have fun!
For more on Rumi listening go to: www.squidoo.com/rumi-quotes. For additional help see www.surviveandthrivewellness.com and for practice with listening while moving try a free yoga class at Hopkins Health and Wellness in Hopkins MN. Register at 952-933-5085. Hope to see you there.