Lighten up, Atlanta ladies. Powering through the struggles, pitfalls, and even unknown obstacles involved in motherhood, there is hope for mothers who still dream a seemingly impossible dream of perfection.
“Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her. There are many virtuous women and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all.” Proverbs 31:28, 29 New Living Translation
Unfortunately, the Proverbs 31 woman does not translate well into real life. For you dreaming mothers on the precipice of another Mother’s Day here in Metro Atlanta, a lot of nice things are being said but you ponder if perhaps someone else is being discussed.
Think on these things: Your children are bored, bored, bored. Those dreaded words ring in your ears, “I hate you.” Your mother and others criticize your parenting skills. Your children are taking you for granted as usual, along with your better half. Well, maybe being queen for a day will offset some of these issues after all.
But certainly dream on mothers, as you go about your business in Union City, Marietta, Douglasville or elsewhere in Atlanta. While it is necessary to acknowledge this sad truth, there are no perfect mothers, but there are still dreamers as well as should be. Here are some principles, 5 “P’s” to help keep dreamers dreaming.
PERFECTIONISM – Let go of unreasonable expectations of you. Start by becoming happy with who you are. Do a good self- inventory; you can change only what you are capable of changing. Then, identify what you can change in yourself.
PEOPLE PLEASING– Be true to yourself. You have rights as a person. Believe it or not, “no” is a complete sentence.
PERCEPTION – Ability to understand, insight, and comprehension are cited in Webster’s Dictionary. Make good choices by examining your attitude. Be grateful for what you have and do not obsess over what you don’t. From a spiritual standpoint, there is a reason for everything.
POWERLESSNESS – Realize that admitting that you are powerless over a situation does not diminish you in any way. Everyone is powerless over something in life.
PRAYER – Establish a connection with the God of your understanding. Communicate and remember to be authentic as you connect. In your own way talk, write; sing to your Higher Power, whatever works for you until a true connection is made.
Finally, a most powerful tool for the dreaming Atlanta mother is to love. Love yourself, love your children, love your family members, and love your friends. Dream big dreams as you become the mother that is praised on Mother’s Day. Yes, it is you that they are lauding on the streets of Atlanta. You are that dream mother, you think ever so wispfully.