A strong commitment to romantic relationships generally helps you to be naturally healthy in mind and body. In a traditional society parents generally prefer teaching their kids the value of loving and lasting relationships instead of advising them to play the field in their sexual exploits.
HealthDay has reported “Capacity for Commitment May Start in Early Childhood”, http://bit.ly/kxku4f. A new study has discovered that the ability for men and women to have a lot of staying power and a strong sense of commitment in their romantic relationships can be traced back to their early childhood and adolescence.
This study is published in the June issue of Psychological Science. http://bit.ly/jRXcyE. In this study researchers asked 78 people who were aged 20 or 21 and their heterosexual partners about their level of commitment to their relationship together. These researchers had already collected data on the participants from when they were 2 to 16 years old which included how loving and attentive their mothers were when they were toddlers and how well they handled conflict with friends as teens. The researchers learned that the toddlers who were treated well by their mothers and who were better at resolving conflicts as teenagers were generally more committed in their adult relationships.
This study also found that couples with differing levels of commitments were the most antagonistic. In a relationship between a person with strong feelings about commitment paired with someone with weak feelings about commitment the person with a strong commitment was found to more often lose out and have less influence. And a relationship with
each person having a low level of commitment to relationships found each person generally tolerating equally low expectations. And so interestingly if each person in the relationship shared the same feelings about commitment, whether strong or weak, they were more likely to stay together than two people whose level of commitment differed.
The researchers feel this study’s findings will help us better understand how people learn to love. M. Minda Orina has said in a news release from the Association for Psychological Science “As children, you are learning to manage your own needs and those of the people you care about. You learn: Can I come forward with a problem? What can I expect of the other person? And how can I do this in a way that everyone wins?”
Mandel News Service