Couples fight. Couples who live together fight about living together. Who leaves underwear on the floor, who is obsessed with vacuuming. The neat/messy ying and yang of a relationship can wreak havoc on the happiest of couples.
Take the Feng Shui approach to keeping a house clean. Create a space you want to be in. If your surroundings are cluttered and messy, the chances are so are many areas of your life. This clutter keeps people out. The problem is that some people deliberately want to keep people out. In other words, it’s very easy to say, “I don’t want him to come over because he’ll see how messy my house is.” This is a very easy wall to put up.
Then you meet someone, and you clean up the mess. Eventually the relationship will progress until you have merged stuff and messes and are fighting for territory over the war that has become your new home.
Cleaning only becomes a major undertaking if don’t stay on top of it.
1. Make dinner at least once a week in a crockpot (and make sure there are leftovers for another night).
2. Shout color catchers: mean never having to separate your laundry.
3. Buy a Roomba.
4. Spray your shower with Lysol Basin, Tub, and Tile cleaner once a week. Then, you don’t have to scrub it.
5. Keep clutter to a minimum. Throw out your mail immediately, don’t make piles!
6. Keep knick-knacks to a minimum, it’s less you have to dust!
7. Clean up a little once a week. Light dusting, wipe down your bathrooms, clean the toilets. Don’t let dirt build up and cleaning will never have to be a major project.
There are many issues to tackle in a relationship don’t make cleaning one of them. Work together as a team but don’t expect 50/50. Afterall, it’s a relationship not a business, give and take out of love.