The season for June brides is approaching and women in love everywhere may want to take some love tips from Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge, most particularly her ability to forgive. OK! Magazine just reported on the happy Newlyweds Prince William & Catherine Return from Honeymoon. But in fact Prince William and Kate had some rocky times. She even packed up and left him at one point. Remember when ShowBiz Spy reported on his kisses in public with another woman? Today Kate is a royal Princess because of her positive attitude and ability to overlook his flaws and be forgiving! Prince William and Kate Middleton Split Amid Cheating Claims
A positive attitude, our garden of joy
Maintaining a positive attitude is the real secret to happiness which attracts enduring friendships and even love. It has been shown to strengthen marriages and is helpful to those looking to attract love. But the love-happiness secret is in loving and taking care of one’s self first. In this way, we cultivate our own internal garden of joy.
Furthermore, psychologists tell us that we should smile even in the face of adversity. While that can be a challenge, here are 4 secrets for building a love-happiness foundation:
Express gratitude often. Be grateful for being you. Be grateful for your friends; they play a powerful role in one’s well-being.
Overlook flaws. Relationships will thrive if you overlook your friends’ and lovers minor flaws, and just hope they do the same for you.
Be forgiving — as she forgave the Prince’s kisses with another woman. This is a tough one. It is easy to forgive in little ways, but the big ones are daunting. However, the more one clears out anger and grudges, which medical researchers say are dangerous to the heart, the more room there is for love.
As I had reported earlier all of Kate’s family and friends saw the now famous picture that was said to devastate Kate – the photo of William kissing [British pop star] Natasha Hamilton.
See link in Suggested Reading to Royal Engagement: Prince William to wed Kate after bumpy ride – National Love and marriage | icedjamb.com
Cherish instead of criticizing. Uplifting words resonate more than what can be the most damaging words ever uttered: “How many times do I have to tell you?” Keep in mind that we all live in this overstressed 24/7 society, and our words can harm or heal.
Kiss and make-up. The ability to smile and to kiss and make up after an argument is vital to relationships. But Hollywood headlines would have us believe that the minute something goes wrong, if we change partners as often as we change lipstick shades, we will eventually find Mr. Perfectly Right.
However, that seems like a chore. Perhaps finding love and happiness is simply a matter of changing our perception of perfection, maintaining a positive attitude, and forgiving foils and foibles.
Adapted from Rita Watson: Providence Journal/ Happiness leads to love, not the other way around
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