PCSing is a part of the military life. It’s known to all who enter that “home is where the military sends you”. However, knowing what you’re in for, doesn’y make adjusting any easier. Here are a few tips on making the move a smoothe one.
First, check Military Duty Sations online. They have duty stations listed by state. Once you click on your duty station it will tell you everything you could ever want to know. From commisary locations, banking, and even what activities they have on base for kids. The site even inclused moving tips for your particular base.
Second, gets to know your unit. That includes all coffe groups, wives meetings, and FRGs. If you’re not sure what the contact information for your FRG is, you can check it out online, here: Army, Navy, Marines, Air Force. (Coast Guard will be on a case to case bases.) While FRGs can be hit or miss based on your loved one’s unit, touching base with them will probably be the best first move. The wives of your husband’s unit will be the most likely to understand what you are going through when you need someone to lean on or you feel like venting about long hours or management. They’ll also be a great source of support, should a deployment arise. The FRG will keep you in touch with the other wives/loved ones and up to date on what is going on with the unit.
Next, get to know your area. Even if it means driving around aimlessly and relying on good ole’ “Tom-Tom”, figure out what your area has to offer. Moving is tough, especially when you were just starting to get used to the last state the military dropped your house on, so put your best foot forward and start getting familiar with your area. Where is the nearest mall, Walmart, Target, Best Buy, etc. Knowing what you have to work with and where you’re going, can help make a place seem less “strange”.
After you know how to get around, start giving your new home a personal touch. Sure, it was someone else’s house last week, and someone else’s house before that, but it’s your home now and home isn’t white walls. Home is pictures and paitings. Home is colors and warm scents. Home has to feel like home, and to feel like home it needs to look like home. Don’t let the constant moving, keep you from making your house impressive. If you wouldn’t let yourself go, don’t let your house go.
Lastly, get to know the people in your community. It can be tiring having to put yourself out there every could of years, just to make a temporary friend, but it’s an important part of making the most out of your move. See what community events your base has going on. See if they have any mommy and me groups, coffee meetings, etc. Putting yourself out there is the first step, and once you meet a few people, you wont feel so out of place. Keep in mind that the first people who show you attention don’t have to become your best friends. If you get a bad feeling about someone, don’t waste your time. We’ve all have one of “those” friends that we wished we’d have ditched before it got too complicated. Military moves are short lived, don’t let a bad friend make it miserable. The key is to surround yourself with people who will be more than a temporary friend, even when they or you have to move again.
Moving is exhausting, especially when you don’t get to choose where your next stop will be, but by following these simple steps, your new home should be as good as the last in no time.