Within recent weeks I had the “joy” of meeting an older man, a heavy set yet charming Italian man, slightly older than I by roughly 12 years. He had proposed taking me out on a date, and being new to Texas stated that he had found very little dating success with his selection of women within the DFW area.
Looking beyond his rotund figure, and crooked smile the inner me dubiously accepted the offer for an intimate dinner at a restaurant of my choice. My head filled with doubt, questions such as “why are you going on this date?, your not attracted to him, ewww…he is kind of old”. Still ignoring all things inside of me I felt it best to give him a shot hoping that by looking past the exterior maybe just maybe I would find my secret prince charming hidden under layers of fugly.
We went on a total of four dates, each seeming worst than the last. The first date was great good conversation and I had also pretty much made up my mind that he would be entered into my eternal friend file. Second date I felt like a trophy on his arm, the third date someone asked if he was my father, and finally the last date consisted of an amazing falling out. Verbal slander came from both parties and one insult was traded for another. Yelling via text message in all caps he stated “you are nothing to me, I only took you out with hopes of getting a piece of action from you” Mortified my gut feelings confirmed my doubt about this man. Within four dates, he had tried to buy me a ring to marry him, offered to take me on a shopping spree to Neiman Marcus, told me to pick anywhere in the world to go on vacation and ultimately tried to bribe me into liking him or atleast give up my goodies.
So heres at it, some women and men want to be bought, the idea of having some new “boo” pamper them and dote them with lavish gifts that they likely didn’t deserve is their goal. Some people call them gold diggers others may say they are smart for using some poor sap but at the end of the day I value myself, and no amount of cash can make me give myself up to someone who ultimately doesn’t love or respect me.
- If he/she only talks about money, their wealth, materialistic items, including cars, homes etc they are more than likely trying to tempt you to want what you likely don’t have.
- The person flat out bribes you to go out with them “Come to dinner with me I promise you’ll have a great time…afterwards I will take you shopping”
- Money is no object, and the more they invest in you the more they expect you to give up your time.
I’m not saying there is anything wrong with someone wanting to treat you to a nice dinner, or pamper you with gifts but there is a time and place for everything. If your instincts telling you he is after more than just your sole companionship and theres no connection then I suggest you just run.