For most, building and maintaining a mutually fulfilling long-term relationship doesn’t come easy. It requires an ample amount of hard work by both parties involved. Relationships aren’t strengthened by fairy tale wishes, but often through what’s known as the tests of time. During those tests, the two work together to survive, so there is a lot of giving and receiving going on. This giving, is the stuff that holds them together; positive open communication, honesty, loving attention, support, etc.
It has often been said that a good relationship must be 50/50. This idea demonstrates that two halves make a whole, and that each person in the relationship must give their 50% to the relationship in order for it to be maintained. Yet, the understanding must be that ones 50% must actually be 100%.
Though each participant provides half of whats necessary to maintain the relationship, it’s important for each to work to do it by giving all of themselves. When people are only willing to give of themselves to a certain degree and hold back in several areas, they hinder the progress of their relationships. When one partner does so, the balance of the relationship if thrown off. This can be seen in abusive relationships, whether physical or emotional, and relationships where addictions are involved. The abused or loved one of the addicted is giving 100% of him/herself, while the other takes the 100% and returns far less.
In most relationships where people are paying attention, there comes a time when they ask themselves, “Am I giving more than I am receiving?” The answers may vary, and even a yes answer may not cause one to get out of the relationship immediately. Nor does a yes answer have to demand a departure if the relationship is growing toward mutual fulfillment. Isn’t that what most are looking for, a relationship that provides mutual fulfillment?
Relationships are very complex and only the people in them will decide when they are giving too much for their return. But, most have a better chance at a successful healthy relationship when both involved are willing to give the best of themselves at 100%.